A Month in Siena 10/16/2023
Planning Itineraries
How we travel as a couple
Twin Falls, ID to Salt Lake City—and making a flight in a timely manner—was a challenge. September 2019
Reading time: 2 minutes
Return to Blog Home
June 9th, 2020 at 3:15pm
Please consider disabling your ad blocker, it disrupts site functions in addition to blocking ads. Thank you!
God yes, we plan.
My wife and I plan our trips as a couple—but the key here is: we plan them. We don't wing it.
Seasoned pros can skip this page.
We don't have absurdly detailed itineraries. (Note: we usually take city trips.) We do this as a vague outline no matter where we go:
- Relaxed breakfast, almost never early
- One visit in the mid- to late morning
- Lunch
- One visit in the afternoon
- Rest (hotel, a park, a cafe, etc)
- Dinner
In travel, unless it's camping or a beach vacation, we might restate the above as, "Amateurs 'play it by ear,' professionals talk logistics."
If a visit will be short, yes, we do a second thing if it's close by. The key is we don't rush around, we don't cram, we don't stress. And we make sure the plans make as much logistical sense as possible.
Be a professional
The statement has been attributed to two different generals—which means neither said it—but you've probably heard it before: Amateurs talk strategy, professionals talk logistics.
It's true. In travel, unless it's camping or a beach vacation, we might restate the above as, Amateurs 'play it by ear,' professionals talk logistics.
Think of the connections
When planning your itinerary, don't forget how you're getting there, what's nearby, and what the obstacles are or might reasonably be.
In other words:
- Clump your visits together as much as possible. Unless it's a small town, don't go to one museum on the north side, then to the east side for lunch, then...you get the point. I've heard about this mistake more often than you might think. I made it when I was younger.
- Think of the specifics of getting from A to B to C. Look at a map and figure out how you're getting from one place to another. Ask yourself: if you're walking, is that too much? Will public transportation make the connection easier or more difficult? How do things change if it's too hot or it's raining? What if you're carrying shopping bags? If you're driving, will you be able to park easily? Etc etc. The connections matter.
Don't plan together
It's fun to plan everything together—until it's not.
We avoid the inevitable burnout and mutual annoyance by distributing the planning: I take Paris, she takes Rome. I ask if she has specific wants/needs, and I accommodate those, then I plan literally everything else (attractions, restaurants, hotels, etc). And vice versa.
It has been, for us at least, a spectacularly successful way to plan trips. It lightens the load for each of us, it incorporates surprise, but it also allows each of us to feel heard.
Case in point: a few years ago, we spent five days in Rome. I had planned other parts of the trip, including Paris. I told Gina I wanted to see basilicas. Lots of basilicas, like the ones from my medieval art history classes in college, and I wanted to see the Sistine Chapel. As long as we checked those boxes, we could do anything and everything she wanted, because she planned it. (The Rome leg was incredible!)
For Paris, Gina wanted to see arcades, she wanted to go up the Eiffel Tower, and she had her eye on a particular restaurant (which we liked but didn't love). Other than that, yeah, I had it covered. (The Paris leg was incredible!)
One more thing: Unless a hotel bowls us over in the city we're planning, we often select three and let the "non-planner" choose the one they like best. That is, when I planned Memphis, there was no discussion: we stayed at The Peabody. When I planned Paris, she chose from the three I suggested.
Once more
- We follow a simple outline no matter where go
- We try our best to visit things in the same area and we pay close attention to the connective tissue of the itinerary
- We distribute responsibility for planning
We take awesome vacations every time.
Recent Posts
Eyewitness Travel: France 4/24/2023
L'Africain du Groenland 8/2/2022
On the Plain of Snakes 5/17/2022
Volcanoes, Palm Trees, and Privilege 3/22/2022
L'axe du loup 2/28/2022
The Art of Travel 12/31/2021
Postcard: Los Angeles 11/5/2021
Afropean 8/6/2021
Roadrunner 7/22/2021
Popular Tags
Archive
Show moreAbout
Recent Tweets
If you toggle the switch above the words "Recent Tweets" and it still says, "Nothing to see here - yet," it means the idiot who broke Twitter either hasn't gotten around to fixing this feature, or intentionally broke it to get us to pay for it (which is moronic, I can easily live without it and it generated traffic to his site).
Add a comment
Comments